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Amy Osmond Cook, Cupid’s Pulse
Nov 30, 2016
With gifts to buy, parties to host, baking by the dozen, holiday travel, and finding decorations that transform our homes into something rivaling the North Pole, it seems we can never get enough money, especially during the holiday season. In the world of celebrities, where Beyoncé uses $350,000 worth of Birkin bags as stocking stuffers and Suri Cruise is treated to her own $24,000 playhouse, it’s hard not to get carried away with the Yuletide retail spirit — until your partner disagrees with you. When everything else in your relationship seems solid, how can a holiday spender and grinchy saver find harmony during the holidays? Here’s some relationship advice and dating tips to keep things merry with your partner and your wallet.
Relationship Advice That Will Help You Survive The Holidays
1. As the spender, consider the root of your spending. Here’s a pop quiz: Name every present you received last year. It’s hard to remember. The point is, the holiday season is the premiere “live-in- the-moment” season. What we think is important at the moment quickly loses its value as time moves on. The one thing that lingers is debt — the gift that keeps on giving. Many of us feel the need to spend as a way to compensate for feeling lonely or inadequate. Perhaps we want to protect our family from negative memories, or we feel guilt and want to make up for it by showering people with gifts. For the rest of us, there is likely nothing sinister about it — we’re just bored and love a good deal. But when you place an unhealthy emphasis on things, you miss out on other ways to connect with those you love. “After owning up to what is really going on, the next step is to understand the consequences of your behavior,” said relationship expert Neal Frankle, a Huffington Post contributor. “Don’t beat yourself up. Just tell the spendthrift part of you to beat it.”
2. As the saver, realize time passes quickly. Balance is the key to finding a happy medium during the holidays. We should never abandon our plans to build financial security, but there are times when it seems right to invest in the moment, especially when it comes to family time. “Over the past decade, an abundance of psychology research has shown that experiences bring people more happiness than do possessions,” wrote contributor James Hamblin, which is a lesson for the spender in the house, as well.
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